She’s So Lucky, I Hate Her!

St. Patrick's Day 1Good luck/bad luck.  Some things are just out of your control.  But as a true Irish lass I believe you can make your own luck.  There is a famous quote by Samuel Goldwyn that goes, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.”

Sometimes it’s easy to look other at other people who seemingly have it all and turn that Irish color: green with envy.  “Why are they so lucky?  Why is their life so much better than mine?” you think.  My high school teacher once wrote on the board “jealousy” and then circled the word “lousy” because he said it was such a lousy human defect.

Confession:  When I first started going to the gym I was a bit of a player hater.  I’d see a really fit women in a cute yoga outfit and sometimes think, “Oh shut up!” as though her whole persona were saying, “Ha ha, I’m better than you.”  And then I’d think, “You’re so lucky!  You probably never had kids!  You probably love to eat tofu and salad all day!  You must have some serious skinny genes to fit into those skinny jeans!”

When I think to the times in my life I’ve felt jealous of other people I realize that my envy had nothing to do with that other person but it did have everything to do with my own fears.  Fear that I was not capable of achieving my long term goals.  Fear that I would never measure up.  Fear that my best would always be lacking.

The only way I’ve ever been able to conquer fears was to confront them.  Once I started taking ownership of my health my fears began to dissolve.  Ok, I can do this.  And I discovered all those things I had been telling myself were lies:

  • That woman on the treadmill with the great body?  Yeah, she has four kids.
  • The woman pumping iron loves Cap’n Crunch not salad.  But she chooses to eat salad anyway because it makes her body work better than sugary cereal.
  • The gal in the yoga pants?  Her genetics might be luckier than mine in that when she carries extra weight she goes up a bra size and when I gain weight I look pregnant, but if you think people were genetically engineered to be obese try telling it to a caveman.Irish Yoga

Here’s another truth:  No one ever said to me, “Ha ha, I’m better than you.”  No one ever laughed at me.  (Well, except the time I knocked myself in the head with a cable, but let’s face it, that was pretty damn funny.)  All those women made their own luck and they worked at it every day.

And the harder I worked the luckier I became, because the other women starting giving me tips on how to balance exercise with family, how to make clean eating taste dirty and tasty, how to trick your body to push through a plateau.  Now I’m lucky enough to call them my friends.

On this St. Patrick’s Day I wish you the best of luck pushing past your fears and finding your own pot of gold, whatever that may mean to you.

Luck of the IrishAn Old Irish Blessing

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
Happy St. Patrick’s Day! 
Do you make your own luck?  Have you ever been a player hater?

Lisa ;)

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9 responses to “She’s So Lucky, I Hate Her!

  1. Yep there is a chick I work with. She is all of 5’2″ and every bit the stereotypical dainty, petite, southern belle. She also teaches two Crossfit classes a day and teaches a yoga class a few times a week. And she DOES the workouts at the same time. And never eats carbs. Like EVER. Or chocolate. Maybe she’s an alien… anyways – so she looks amazing and adorable and can rock a bikini at 30 something after two kids. But I realized I’m not willing to do that; I don’t want to work out twice a day/2 plus hours a day at least. I don’t want to NEVER eat carbs or chocolate. Maybe if I did what she did I would look a lot better but I’d never stick with such a strict diet permanently so why set myself up for failure? I’ll never be as fit as her, but I can be a fitter version of me!

    • It’s all about finding what’s right for YOU. Comparing yourself to others will just drive you nuts. I like that you’re working towards a fitter version of yourself 🙂

  2. Good stuff! You figured it out for sure, because there really is only one way to conquer your fears and that is to face them head on!

  3. It’s so easy to judge when you initially see someone with a great body, but once you see that person day after day busting their rear and you actually get to talk to them, you realize that they work hard for it and that they share some of your same struggles. I love to use someone else’s example as a motivator for me to step it up.

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